Thursday, November 11, 2010


You know how certain moments get etched in your brain as if time freezes and all the details become frozen and you know you will never forget it as long as you live? You find yourself replaying and replaying it and can even feel some portion of the flood of emotions you felt when it first happened. Obviously, I have collected a lot of those 'moments' in the past two years walking through this journey with CJ as he has battled childhood cancer. This is one of those memories that I get the rare opportunity to relive and possibly even replace to some degree.

Two years ago, we were told CJ had stage 3 Lymphoma, an aggressive blood cancer. We walked through the fog of biopsies, diagnosis, surgery, and the first devastating days of chemo. One month later we attended our first Light the Night Walk for the Leukemia and Lymphoma Society, not really fully understanding why we felt the need to be there so 'soon' after diagnosis,and still unsure of the long term survival of our son. I will never forget walking up to the check in table and giving them CJ's name. The gentleman behind the table handed me a shirt for CJ. I held it up and the first thing I saw was the word SURVIVOR in big bold letters plastered across the back. Time froze! I stared at it choking back tears. I thought there must be some mistake and they misunderstood that we were just diagnosed about 5 weeks before.

Everything was still moving all around me. Sights, sounds, smells, people everywhere. But I was frozen in time and that shirt and word did not move. Before I could compose myself and get past the lump in my throat to explain that there was some mistake, I suddenly realized that they considered anyone who has cancer and is still 'alive' to any degree a survivor. What else would they wear? "Hopeful to Survive" I guess I was hoping for WARRIOR or maybe even VICTIM would have felt more appropriate as to how we felt.

To be honest, the word SURVIVOR was a little crushing. Somehow it sapped my hope and I felt like we had no right to wear it yet. I felt like it was a pity thing as if they knew there was no way CJ would be alive two years from now so if he is ever going to get to wear it we better take advantage of it. Of course I know now that I completely misunderstood the mission and knowledge of LLS at the time and I certainly misunderstood the wisdom of God in having us wear it. All I knew then was that I wanted CJ to be a real survivor when he wore that shirt. I wanted it to mean something more than 'I am just hanging on for my life here and hoping to get to wear this shirt again next year'.

Praise God....he did get to wear it the following year. By then we were a full year into chemo. Veterans by most standards. But survivor was still not how we felt about our experience. After all, we still had a full year of chemotherapy to go and we knew what that could bring. But without an alternative, he donned the SURVIVOR shirt again and we took our lap with our balloons held high. I admit it was a lot easier than the first year and we were more focused on comforting others around us who were the new 'hopeful' just as we were a year ago, but we still did not feel like 'survivors'.

BUT.......This Saturday evening, CJ will walk in the Light the Night walk for his third time. And for the FIRST time since this all began, we will feel like he is a TRUE SURVIVOR. He has now completed two years of chemotherapy. We just received word that his CT Scans and PET scans are CLEAR!!!! No Evidence of Disease!!! The coveted NED!!!

Not only will he walk as a SURVIVOR but he is also the Honored Hero for Light the Night's Broward Walk this year. A double blessing.

I can't wait for them to hand me that shirt this year. I can't wait to watch him walk with the word SURVIVOR plastered across his back with his white survivors balloon held high.

CJ may be the Honored Hero of the Night but we have one true hero. When we take that lap and look up at the balloons, we will ultimately look past them and our gaze will land on the Host of the Heavens. Our Lord and our Savior Jesus Christ.....

"Not to us, O Lord, not to us but to your name be the glory, because of your love and faithfulness."
(Psalm 115:1)

Thank you to everyone who has supported us these past two years. We are so grateful for your kindness, patience, encouragement but most of all your prayers! They are of eternal value to us. We still feel as we did that very first day we posted a blog begging for we don't deserve it and we haven't been faithful enough in prayer to ask for others to pray for us. But we are so grateful you did!

We invite all of you who can attend the walk to come out and join us and take CJ's end of chemo victory lap with him! The walk is this Saturday at 5pm at the Huizenga Plaza on Las Olas in Ft Lauderdale. (Please note the new location for anyone who has previously attended the other walks)
CJ will be honored and speaking at 5:15pm during the opening ceremonies. We are extremely proud and grateful to the Lord for his healing and we want to share this moment with all of you!

I am copying and pasting all the details we were sent regarding the walk below. If you have any further questions please feel free to contact me at 305-986-5618 (Dawn)

Light the Night Saturday November 13th
Huizenga Plaza is located at 32 E. Las Olas Blvd., Fort Lauderdale, FL 33301. Map!

  • Parking is available at the city garage across the street from the park off 2nd Avenue. You must pre-pay the meter. $1/hr (this should only cost you 2-3 dollars total for the night)
  • Balloons - One wristband = one balloon. Walkers who raised 100.00 will receive a wristband entitling them to a t shirt, balloon and food. (Note: you don't need to have raised the 100.00 to attend the walk. We invite you out to support CJ no matter if you registered or not! You can however make a donation that night if you would like to.
  • Walk Program begins at approximately 5:15 pm. The actual walk will begin immediately following the program.
  • The Walk route is under 1 mile. We will walk along the New River and turn around back to Huizenga Plaza via E. Las Olas Blvd.
  • Children's Village opens at 4:00 pm: Florida Panthers Bounce House, Stanley the Panther, 3-in-1 Bounce House & Slide, face painting by Miss Pidazzle, cotton candy, snow cones, popcorn, and coloring tables. There will also be many children's games. (If you have children, we recommend coming out early and enjoying the festivities. (We will personally be there by 4pm)


CeeJay West said...

Hi CJ,

So glad to hear things are going so well for you and that you got the coveted "NED" :)

I hope you have fun on the Walk and that you proudly wear your SURVIVOR shirt! You have earned that shirt, you are a true survivor and warrior.

I felt very close to you from the 1st day your Mom told me about you - I think that's because we have the same name - and am always happy when your Mom posts good news about you.

I will be thinking of you as you walk tonight, I am proud to 'know' you and your family.

{hugz} & ♥

Anonymous said...

Hello CJ and George family we won't be able to make the walk but we will be thinking about you as we do everyday :) we love you I will gladly cut my bracelet off I always wear it on my ankel I will feel something is missing but I am so Happy to get the scissors out you are a brave young man and we are very proud of you I love you Dawn and always have you in my thoughts Always the rodriguez family xoxoxo

Anonymous said...

Your family was in my thoughts earlier today. Sorry we can't make the walk but we will be thinking of you all. Thanks for your ongoing examples of how you care for others regardless of your own situations. Love and prayers, Vonda